Self Accountability
"You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of." ~ Jim Rohn
What do you do when no one is watching? Do you maintain the same actions of self-accountability, or do you relax them slightly? Self-accountability refers to the ability to take responsibility for one's own actions, decisions, and their consequences regardless of who is watching or what the scenario is. It involves being honest with oneself about successes and failures, acknowledging mistakes, and learning from them to improve and grow. Practicing self-accountability can lead to personal growth, improved relationships, and greater success in achieving personal and professional goals. It is a vital skill for anyone looking to develop a powerful sense of integrity and responsibility.
Self-Awareness
What are the elements of self-accountability? Self-accountability begins with self-awareness which is described as the ability to recognize and understand your own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, as well as how they affect not only you but others. It is a crucial component of emotional intelligence and plays a significant role in personal growth and development. Marshall Goldsmith in “What Got You Here, Won’t Get You There” explores self-awareness and accountability as key components in achieving personal and professional growth. In his book, Goldsmith explains that successful people often believe their past behavior is the reason for their success. This can lead to complacency and resistance to change. In order to avoid complacency and resistance to change, Goldsmith stresses the importance of seeking feedback from others to gain insight into behaviors to increase self-awareness.
Self-Honesty
There is a link between self-awareness and self-honesty. Self-honesty seems like an uncomplicated process; however, individuals may find it difficult to be self-honest for several reasons including fear of judgment, ego and pride, cognitive dissonance, cultural and social influences, and past experiences in life. Addressing these challenges often involves developing greater self-awareness, practicing self-compassion, and creating a safe environment for honest self-reflection.
Yet, being truthful with yourself about your performance, behaviors, and areas that need improvement are critical to self-accountability. Self-honesty includes being truthful with oneself about one’s thoughts, feelings, actions, and motivations. It involves recognizing and accepting both strengths and weaknesses without self-deception or denial.
Another aspect of self-honesty is admitting mistakes. Admitting mistakes is an essential aspect of personal growth, effective leadership, and healthy relationships. It requires humility, self-awareness, and courage. John Maxwell in “Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success” explores how embracing and learning from mistakes can lead to personal and professional growth. He emphasizes that failure is not the opposite of success but a part of it. Finally, acceptance of reality allows individuals to be realistic about circumstances and capabilities, avoiding idealization or exaggeration.
Commitment
Once a level of self-awareness and self-honesty is established, following through on promises and commitments made to self and others is a requirement for self-accountability. A commitment to self is a dedication to personal growth, well-being, and fulfillment. It involves prioritizing your needs, values, and goals, and taking intentional actions to nurture and develop yourself. It also requires taking full ownership of goals and the actions needed to achieve them. Commitment involves dedicating the necessary time, effort, and resources to make progress. Shane Parrish in “Clear Thinking” suggests that committing means making deliberate choices about how you spend your time and energy and then focusing on what truly matters while aligning your actions with your values and goals.
In the fast pace of everyday life individuals sometimes forget that commitment to self is as vital as commitment to goals. Often missed is the need to prioritize physical, emotional, and mental well-being by engaging in activities that replenish and rejuvenate. Commitment to self also includes setting and maintaining healthy boundaries to protect time, energy, and resources. This might involve saying no when necessary and respecting your limits. Let’s not forget that being kind to and forgiving of yourself, especially when facing setbacks or challenges, includes the recognition that imperfection is a part of being human.
Seeking Feedback
From whom do you seek feedback? Self-accountability requires being open to feedback from others and using it constructively to enhance personal development. Seeking feedback offers numerous benefits, both personally and professionally. Receiving feedback holds you accountable for your actions and outcomes. It encourages taking responsibility for your work and striving for excellence. Getting feedback from others can provide individuals with different perspectives that you might not have considered and may remove confirmation bias from any given situation. This can lead to more creative solutions and a deeper understanding of what is needed and desired actions that lead to success. Constructive feedback can also help identify problems or challenges that might not have been noticed and offers opportunities to address issues before they become significant obstacles. Feedback from others can introduce new ideas, techniques, or methods that may not have been encountered before. Finally, feedback is a valuable learning experience that broadens your knowledge.
Seeking feedback demonstrates that you value others’ opinions and are open to collaboration. This can strengthen relationships and build trust with colleagues, peers, or clients. Although Jim Collin’s work in “Good to Great” focuses primarily on companies, he discusses the importance of having the right people on the "bus," which can be applied to personal development. Selecting the right mentors or advisors can help steer your personal and professional life in the right direction.
Reflection
Without reflection, it is difficult to be self-accountable. Reflection plays a crucial role in enhancing self-accountability by encouraging assessment of actions, decisions, and behaviors. Reflecting on decisions encourages ownership of them. This ownership fosters a sense of accountability, as individuals recognize that they have control over actions and their consequences. Reflection elevates awareness of strengths, weaknesses, and patterns of behavior. This awareness is the first step in both taking responsibility for actions and making conscious choices. Reflecting on past experiences helps to glean learning from them. By analyzing what worked and what did not, application of these lessons to future situations creates opportunities for growth and development. This is true for both successes and mistakes. Reflection often leads to insights that can prompt changes in behavior. When it is recognized that certain actions are not leading to desired outcomes, individuals are more likely to take responsibility and adjust behaviors accordingly. Overall, reflection is a powerful tool for fostering self-accountability. It encourages a proactive approach to personal and professional development, enabling individuals to take responsibility for actions and continuously strive for improvement.
Many authors have written about the need for reflection as part of growth and development. In "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People," Stephen R. Covey discusses the habit of "Sharpening the Saw," which involves regular reflection and renewal. He emphasizes how self-reflection is crucial for maintaining balance and accountability in personal and professional life. Next, in "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success," Carol Dweck examines how the growth mindset encourages reflection and accountability. She explains how reflecting on setbacks and challenges can lead to personal development and accountability for one's growth and learning. Finally, Byron Katie, whose work is often used in coaching, introduces a process of self-inquiry called "The Work," which involves reflecting on one's thoughts and beliefs. Through this reflective process, individuals can take accountability for their perceptions and find peace and clarity.
Practicing self-accountability can lead to personal growth, improved relationships, and greater success in achieving personal and professional goals. It is a vital skill for anyone looking to develop an intense sense of integrity and responsibility. Overall, self-accountability encourages taking ownership of life, leading to greater fulfillment and success in both personal and professional endeavors.